Friday, June 28, 2013
Love is love
I'm pleased with the SCOTUS' decisions regarding the Defense of Marriage Act, and thankful for the California community regarding the ruling over Prop 8. They could have made a far more reaching statement regarding this issue, but I respect their decisions.
There are still questions. Jason and I were talking about how the DOMA ruling would affect a couple that was married in Washington but moved to a state where marriages are only legal for heterosexual couples. Legally, the couple would still be married, therefore at the federal level they would still be entitled to the same benefits as a heterosexual couple. Right?
Also at issue is are states allowed to restrict the rights that are granted at the federal level. If a couple is legally married anywhere in the United States, their state of residence shouldn't impact their interaction with the federal government - should it?
When I worked for Social Security oh so many many years ago, the laws in Washington state had no impact on our application of the SS laws.
I read one of my former high school classmates opinions on the topic and it made me really mad, and sad. He certainly represents a group of people who adamantly believe that marriage can only exist between a man and a woman. I sure do respect his right to think that way and to never ever enter into a marriage with another man. I don't respect the unkind and pretty close to hateful way in which he applies his logic.
The thing that really set me off was the statement that marriage is intended for the sole purpose to bring children into the world. So if your union cannot produce children (because you're two dudes or two ladies) then it's not a marriage. If it weren't a completely useless exercise I'd like to know at what point he thinks 'marriages' that haven't produced children should be dissolved? If after 10 years a couple is barren or their child dies should they no longer be married? Raar.
There will always be people who think that marriage between two women or two men is wrong. I just hope that in time they become a smaller and smaller group and that their children and grandchildren will talk about their position in the same way that we speak of those who are still holding on to the notion of racial purity - with hushed and apologetic tone. "Please forgive great aunt Millie, she still thinks it's 1948 in the south."
Anyway - it looks to be a stunning weekend. The inflatable pool will be making an appearance at Casa LaTP this weekend. Come on over if you need to sit in icy water with a 2 year old.