J is a great sport, he's easy going and generally very open to new ideas and experiences. I'm not quite sure he was ready for the aftermath of the "Will you marry me?"
I have an acute awareness that the wedding is only a day, and that the important thing is the life we are building together. However...the wedding planning is an experience.
If you've been paying attention you've heard me say that I am a big fan of the Martha Stewart Wedding empire. I faithfully buy the quarterly offering of the latest dresses, cakes, and ideas. I knew J was a keeper when (before the actual engagement) I saw the newest issue and bought it with him and he didn't run for the door. Poor guy didn't know that at home I had about 20 additional issues. These are for reference...and damn it, it's girl porn! (I don't and won't complain about Maxim that arrives monthly. We each have our interests.)
The planning is going well. We're ahead of the game in a lot of areas and are currently mulling over the invitations and will start the photographer search in earnest after the holidays.
While I am "the bride" I am working on not being overly "it's my way or the highway" on things. I am presenting options and photos so he can see my vision. There's a new idea floating around for the bridesmaid dresses that is really exciting to me and at first discussion J wasn't all that warm. But with more information and a few visuals that may change.
There are certain things about a wedding that the groom just isn't equipped to deal with. It's not that they aren't smart enough, or strong enough...but really, what heterosexual man cares about chair covers? Shoot, what straight (never been married) guy even KNOWS about chair covers? It's a crazy expense and I think it will be worth it. The chairs at "the manor" are terrible and chair covers will neutralize them and be a dramatic decorative element that will make our floral investment pop. As committed as I am to this expense it was hard to bring it up. Even talking about it was a little embarrassing. The look of confusion on J's face was one I don't want to see again.
We've set a budget and little items like this will increase the spend. However, I'm happy to cover things like seat covers out of my monthly play money. Suzy Ormond probably would yell at me for that, but damn it...it's my day. (lol) It's our day. OUR DAY
I'm not complaining about the wedding planning. I've waited a while to put an event like this together and am enjoying the process. I love that I had a vision and that my gal pals are contributing -- fun fun fun!
J is enjoying it too... last weekend we sampled the first idea for wedding champagne. TERRIBLE. So, we'll keep looking. The search for the right wine and champagne offering will be fun.
There will be more wedding stuff here in the future, and when it is all said and done -- photos! Until then...have a great weekend.
3 comments:
Chair covers.
LMAO.
Carry on. =)
Don't forget about these other all-important items:
1. Chair cover COVERS. Sure you need to act fast to make certain you aren't stuck with the venue's own chair "look" (which is apt to clash horribly with the decor of the venue). But after you've locked in your chair covers, there will be plenty of time to reflect about the hasty chair-cover choice you made. Chair cover COVERS are something you will want to order, say, just a few months before the wedding, when your chair coverage ideas have really solidified. Don't worry, the original chair covers you order will still provide valuable additional padding between the chair cover covers and the venue's chairs themselves, which are apt to be hard and teeming with bacteria.
2. Chair cover tie tassels. Ordinary bits of cord after you've "tied the knot"? What kind of message would that send? AN INSANE MESSAGE! Best money you'll ever spend.
3. Drunk uncle covers. Every family has one, and he's apt to clash with everything. Don't let him ruin your special day.
4. Money separators. You can't expect to think of all the ways you can enhance your love through the liberal expenditure of money. Decorative money separators will make sure there is no extra cash to distract you from the priceless memories you will make on that one particular day.
My first mate and I got married without chair covers and do I have to tell you it was an utter fiasco? The mismatched chair thing just rankled--no relationship could have survived that kind of strain, and certainly not our relationship, which was based on getting inside garbage cans.
She grew distant, and we drifted apart. In fact, I'm pretty sure she was on her way to see another male raccoon when that Dodge Durango obliterated her.
So remind J that there are worse things than spending money on something he can't even conceive is an actual product. (It's true, I heard him talking on the phone. He thinks you are playing a joke on him.)
When are you moving out, and how long do you you expect the condo to be vacant?
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