Here's a sample of the kind thoughts that were sent my way:
I want you to know that I value you as a friend and as a mentor. Yep, you are younger than I am, but I think of you as a mentor and am so grateful for that fateful day that xx quit his job.
Do you have ANY idea how much you've changed my life? I would not be where I am today without TP gal. You would play a big part in my "it's a wonderful life" movie.
I don't just value you for what you've done for me. I also love hanging out with you and wish I was easier to get out of my comfort zone (my home) to socialize. You are one of the most fun girlfriends that I have and I have nothing but happy memories of any time we've spent together.
So, know that I love you and treasure you and I *know* that I'm not the only one.
I read your last blog and this is what I know for sure. No matter how long you have known someone, or how well you think you know someone, there are always things you will never know about them. And because of this fact you can never predict how they will react to anything said or did. Sometimes you can get back to the place you were in and some time you can't . It is because of them and you can't change that. I have lost a few friends in my life and pinned for the loss a long time. It's how you take your losses that make you strong.
Family is static. We can’t change family very much unless there is a divorce, and if you’re a (name of nice people), then you remain friends. Moms remain Moms and sisters remain sisters, etc. However, as we age friends become like the tide. When the tide rolls in, it deposits friends on our beach. When the water recedes, it takes a few out with it. You’ll find that as you age and your interests begin to differ greatly from your friends that this phenomenon happens more often. It isn’t a bad thing and one should never, never feel guilty about that. This friend could have been content when you were single and leaning on her. But, when you married and had lovely Lucy, you leaned less and the dynamics changed. Sounds like she is much more inflexible than you are. (Go figure...Leo’s are never flexible.)
This friend is here to shore you up and say making friends and putting some into neutral is just how it is. Don’t stress!!
Zoinks Shaggy, I didn't expect incoming comments and wouldn't have guessed that my little problem is actually just part of life. I am humbled by the responses and truly grateful for everyone I have met and loved along the way in my charmed life.
The sermon at church Sunday was about a piece of scripture where someone (someone old, maybe Jesus?) was talking about the insignificance of the mustard seed but that once planted it becomes a strong bush that supports the weight of birds. Translation to our modern day world, you never know what small thing you might say or do that has an impact on others, or that might change the direction of your life.
Hopefully the awareness of that truth will help me to error on the side of kindness, but I have found that those mustard seed moments happen when I'm not paying attention. Heck, I agreed to go out with a nerdy guy whom I KNEW I wouldn't really like because I wanted to go on a real date and good gravy look what happened:
|a rejected holiday card option|
That was one good date, I mean we're dressed alike for pete sake. Don't worry, that seldom happens on non-picture day. We will "coordinate" for a party, but the full on family in RED doesn't occur naturally in the wild.
Yes, I am poking Lucy in the ear, but we were trying to make her smile. We have at least 70 pictures that look similar with the baby making all sorts of indifferent facial expressions. When I look at them in order, Jason and I look like crazy people with our eyes wide and our mouths open in gleeful smiles. Next year we will solicit assistance with our photo. The in-laws will be visiting in October, we may set up a tree and fake a "year end" shot at that time.
Anyway, thank you for reading me from time to time and also for your support. It is very appreciated.